On Playing the Field, Bros, and Abstinence

Dear dating diary, 

The past two weekends have potentially been some of the most romantically confusing and stressful I have ever experienced. For the first time since being single, I have been seeing multiple people at once. I know this is no big deal considering I am not exclusive with anyone. However, the stress ensues when your circles begin to cross. 

Two weekends ago, some friends and I decide to go to a gig. Our friend is hosting pre’s so we head there and to my shock (and horror) Finance Bro (a guy I slept with from a previous issue) and Main Bro (the guy I am currently mainly seeing) are in the same room. It’s an incredibly awkward situation but I feel as though I play it off well. I chat to both parties without being overly flirty before Finance Bro leaves early to get to the gig. I go to the gig with Main Bro a little later and end up having a fabulous time! I turn around and give him a quick smooch, only to look to my right and see Finance Bro staring at us making out. Not the most tasteful move by me… 

I end up leaving with Main Bro to another club only to bump into a third suitor, a guy I had made out with at a party the evening before (hereafter known as Party Bro). We say a quick hello before continuing our journey. After a while Party Bro starts messaging me asking where I am and if he can come join. Considering I’m with Main Bro, the answer is most definitely no and I ignore the messages.  

Main Bro and I split for a little bit, and I finally open the messages from Party Bro, the final one saying he has gone home but asking me on a date the next day. Fuck it, why not! I say yes and we agree to go for coffee the following day. Main Bro and I link back up and I end up going back to his and staying the night. The next morning, I wake up and gap it out of there so I can go on this date with Party Bro, which goes well. I get home from the date with Party Bro and decide to check the message from Finance Bro I got on Friday. Turns out he had asked me out on a date, and I just had not seen it. I’m sorry Finance Bro, I did you dirty!!! 

Holy shit, stressful weekend. However, I am excited to not do it again right? RIGHT???? No. Next week, same shit crops up. It’s Friday night and Main Bro and Party Bro are both at the same event… FUCK!!!! Not only this, but I somehow end up flirting with a FOURTH guy and making out with him instead of Party Bro or Main Bro. I meet a cute fifth guy (!!!!) and his friend and we start chatting on Instagram that evening whilst we’re out. This is getting completely and utterly ridiculous. On top of this, that Saturday night I go to a party and Finance Bro (surprisingly) makes a return. We chat a little before I leave and he tells my friend he wishes he had gone home with me. 

That Sunday I lose it. I have the craziest hangxiety over the events of the two weekends and I frankly feel incredibly overwhelmed. Turns out the guy I was messaging on Instagram was not the cute fifth guy but actually his friend that I have absolutely no interest in. I’ve apparently made quite the impression as I have had to leave him on seen 3 different times for him to stop messaging me. Trust that I know leaving someone on seen is bad, but I was at quite a loss for what to do!!! 

The only solution in my eyes is to abstain from EVERYTHING!! I have gotten far too drunk these past few weekends, so it’s time to chill out and take a break from drinking. I have been seeing far too many people, yet I only actually care about one of them. Why am I wasting my time (and theirs) responding to their messages when I don’t have an interest in dating them. It’s time to abstain from dating and talking to men! I am not cut out to see more than one person at a time. I have not felt as horrible as I did that Sunday and it’s time for me to make a change for the better. 

Lesson: It’s okay to see multiple people at once casually, so long as you’re prepared to face the consequences of playing the field!